How To Get A Bad Reputation As A Coach FAST
Ah the need to prove…
So one of the most important things that is involved with my methodology is identifying the issue; as to whether or not your client wants what she wants. Does she wants to prove or to have it for the right reasons.
Usually it’s a little bit of both.
And if you don’t identify this and work with them on it, they are screwed.
And/or you might help them get it but, they will end up sabotaging it. Then wondering what the hell they paid you for and/or get pissed off and think that they can never manifest the right way… etc, etc etc.
There’s also the added bonus that if they want it to prove something, then they will subconsciously resist like a mother fucker to receiving it as well, and then possibly blame you for their lack of results.
So there’s your dilemma.
How can you identify why they desire what they want?
How can you as a coach make sure their why is strong and pure enough that it is the driving force behind getting them the result they hired you for?
Usually what happens here is that if you don’t identify the hidden agendas they have regarding why they want what they want, and 9 times out of 10 there are hidden agendas because well we are all human…
After they work with you…it will look something like this:
They are swimming but, they aren’t getting anywhere. They may be sitting in the chair that everyone envies at the pool but, they are snorting coke in the bathroom every 5 minutes and wondering why they can’t get to the next level. Meanwhile smoking weed to come down because they are getting too much attention and they cannot for the life of them figure out why they aren’t more comfortable with it since they manifested it already.
It’s sort of like…if you are a good mindset coach.
And ultimately what will usually happen is they will wake up and see someone who will say something to the degree of, “You didn’t want this for the right reasons…and so we need to help you to unlearn everything you did…”
So basically you did them more harm than good.
And you wonder why you’re not feeling confident about charging more?
But if this kind of shit has crossed your mind, then it’s probably a reason you don’t have more clients because this is your biggest fear.
So what do you do?
You gotta make sure they want what they want for the right reasons.
Usually asking very clearly…
Why do you want this?
However, you have to have pristine intuition.
You have to be able to understand what is a good reason or not.
And you have to dig a bit to find the root of why they want that, why they say it the way they do and also…
Are they full of shit because they subconsciously know that’s what they need to say to get you to give them the best advice. They know they can do the coked out, smoke weed sitting in the envied chair and that’s what they want because they are so desperate to feel worthy on ANY level…
It takes practice.
It takes balls to dig here.
And it sure as hell takes balls to be able to say to someone who just hired you, paid you damn good money that…actually they are fucked for wanting it.
It takes a strong belief, strong stance and strong ability to be able to guide the client to show them that.
- They do want something way bigger and better than what they are currently after.
- They do probably want what they say but, they need to get to the purest part of their desire.
- Convincing them that they will be way more miserable getting what they want than where they are now and they know that on a deep level that this is why they don’t have it therefore…THAT is actually the REAL reason they hired you.
And you gotta feel confident and strong in order to address these issues.
Because you’ll run into pushback.
A shit ton of pushback from the client.
Or the potential buyer.
You’ll also deal with fear of losing the sale if you are honest. So you gotta be able to handle that with brilliance as well.
Lots of pressure here, I get it.
No wonder we don’t have more clients, right?
Their pushback will come in forms like:
- “I’ve had it before and it worked for me so why wouldn’t it now?”
My response (not neccessarily what I say…)
“Uh, if it worked so fucking well, then why did you just pay me a shit ton of money to help you get it AGAIN? Or rather, really figure out why it didn’t work for you in the first place because you think about how you fucked shit up several times everyday…”
Can I say that to every new client that comes into my business…eh, again, it takes finesse. And sometimes, they still won’t hear you because they think they know more than you do about it because…
Duh, they manifested it before.
- “I don’t need to go this deep….it’s okay to want what I want…”
These are my favorites…they will subconsciously corner you and put you in a space where, if you are adamant about standing where you stand with this, as they don’t want it for the right reasons. You will forever be that coach who wasn’t encouraging them to go after their dreams.
The funnest part about this one is calling them out on it.
I’ve had a few where I have done this and damn, did I feel the energetic hit they felt from it. Which quite honestly…is your duty as a great coach.
- “I don’t need to go this deep…” and then they go find someone who can help them “release” their blocks and they get a quick result and they think they are cured and actually…YOU WERE NOT HELPING THEM GET AN END RESULT.
AND OH DEAR GOD THEY WANT TO FIRE YOU.
Haha, this one is funny….let them go if this is the case. Just let them go.
If you run into this and you will…chances are they don’t want the kind of results that you can bring to the table. If they really did the work. Honestly, they are scared SHITLESS of the results they can get if they actually did the work you have asked them to do.
They hired you initially because something was either deeply wrong and they needed someone strong to help them through it (regardless of whether they will admit you helped them…) and so as soon as they are out of the hole…they will want out of their contract. OR…they hired you initially because they KNEW they wanted the big bad results you could help them get and for a split moment they said, Fuck it, I’m going for it….
Not your fault.
Learn to identify these quickly. The hard part is knowing where they actually are and being prepared for a contract to be broken. Always be fine with letting clients go. ALWAYS.
With quick results…if they have that pattern of manifesting shit quickly and then shit goes to well, shit…they haven’t learned to manifest properly AND they will think they know better than you so well, they are actually a pain in the ass…
Because what you have to do with these is nod your head, agree that they are doing phenomenal and not hope that shit goes to shit but, wait it out to see if they will see the forest from the trees and get down to the work that really needs to be done.
You’ll find them at all spectrums…
And you’ll look back on your results and wonder what coach really did the leg work about helping you get your biggest results.
And when you do…honor that coach you kinda dismissed that you didn’t think helped you.
Those are a few.
And I will help you identify these types of clients.
What you do with them.
And how to handle them.
How to know if they want it for the right reasons.
Join my coaching certification program.
I’ve also added my money bootcamp as well.
Below are the outlines for both.
FIRST THE DETAILS FOR MY COACHING PROGRAM.
Here is the things you will learn…
-how to attract million dollar clients
-how to have a booked out one on one coaching practice
-how to use a methodology that continuously gets powerful results on autopilot
-how to not take on your client’s results as your issues so they get results and rave about you
-how to have clients adore you
-how to still have a fully booked schedule even when you eff up royally
-how to understand the subconscious on the deepest level
-how to empower people in such a way that changes them at their core
-how to understand why the potential client hasn’t gotten results and how you can know that you know they will get results working with you
-how to use your message in this methodology you will learn to change the world
-how to tune into your own spiritual gifts that separate you from all other coaches
-how to own your value so you command the prices you want that people are throwing their credit cards at you
-how to stop the constant spiritual seekers and help them become finders.
Among other things…
And here is the details of the program….
14 girls maximum.
2 group calls a week
–A one on one call with me where I record it and break down what I am asking you and why I’m asking you this….this call will be viewed by everyone in the group for studying purposes
–One group call will be me coaching you for 10 min and explaining why I’m asking the questions I’m asking…
–One group call will be you discussing what you have learned and integrated into your own coaching skills…
–Practice partners (either you will be linked up with someone or we will find you someone to practice coaching so you can bring the work back…)
–You will be coaching at least one person a week…
–Private facebook group for accountability and questions
–A lesson from me a week
–Explanations of the top blocks and patterns I see as well.
Bonus: A day with me in person, super casual, we meet up wherever the hell I’m at..and we discuss whatever the hell you want…and no, you don’t have to be here for this if you can’t make it.
AND HERE IS THE LAYOUT….FOR THE NEW MONEY BOOTCAMP
Lesson one….The Rich Person Within
This is where we are going to dive deeply into what it means to FIND AND BE that abundant person within…this means you are no longer going to be acting like a poor angry bitter victim of money…
You are going to start walking in the steps of the who knows how to bring in thousands of dollars a day.
IMMEDIATELY….IF NOT SOONER! AS SOON AS YOU JOIN THIS PROGRAM…IT’S THAT MINDSET.
(P.s. if you are making six figures a month or more, this still applies to you in the sense that you are blocking money from you if you are not making the kind of money you want to be making…there is ALWAYS a higher version of the wealthy woman within you….)
There is a wealthy person within you that knows EXACTLY what you need to do to be them…
Who knows what your daily mindset work needs to be. (it’s different for everyone actually)
Who knows what blocks are actually needed to work on.
Who knows how to heal her money issues. (but not stupid enough to try to do it on their own and waste years being broke and miserable…)
Who knows how to take control and manifest what they want.
Who knows what investments they need to make despite what the bank accounts say.
We will be diving deeply into really finding the deep details of this person inside of you…I will be giving your customized mindset work and exercises to do so you can tune into them easily and effortlessly at any time, even in a period where you are scared shitless of making an investment, of spending a new level of money…etc etc etc
Is that not the sexiest thing you have heard?
Lesson two…The EMBODIMENT mindset of an abundance
(The classic money blocks that wealthy people KNOW are bullshit and how they think about them…)
AGAIN FROM THE WEALTHY MINDED SPACE, WE LOOK AT HOW POOR PEOPLE VIEW MONEY BLOCKS AND WE LAUGH ABOUT IT.
….BECAUSE YOU BECOME THE WEALTHY PERSON AS SOON AS YOU JOIN THIS PROGRAM.
Classic money blocks that will be included are:
-Charging too low.
-Charging too high and not making sales.
-Afraid to make money because of fear of responsibility.
-Don’t want to work because of partner or parents takes care of shit.
-Wanting to make money for the wrong reasons.
-Wanting to make money to “prove.”
-Secretly not wanting to make money.
-Being a snob towards rich people.
-Thinking money is not spiritual.
-Afraid to commit to the responsibility of handling money.
-Not feeling like that rich person.
-Wanting to hold onto self loathing more deeply than anything else.
-Wanting to be connected to your childhood despite the fact that it was so shitty.
-Acting all “holier than thou” around other rich people but, never actually “get it” about what it MEANS to make serious cash.
-Denial, denial, denial about your resistance to massive cash flow.
All these we will be covering and there will be a step-by-step process we go through to help you go through these blocks separately to release them while staying in the wealthy mindset and body.
-This is where you EMBODY the mindset of a person who has let go completely of their money blocks…
Who knows how they used to think about money and walks, talks, thinks, and moves the speed of someone who has completely let go of those money stories.
If that isn’t enough…we are going further…
Lesson Three: Handling money-the classic pitfalls and fears of handling a lot of money…
-Mentally how to deal with taxes (how to be grateful for them and be EXCITED TO PAY MORE…yes it is possible.)
-How to decide to not give all your money away to your friends and family…how to have those proper boundaries already in place so you don’t worry and block yourself from more money.
-Handling the shame of past spending fuck ups: debt, credit scores, owing parents, friends, banks money…big purchases for your business that failed.
-Toxic money and how to completely get rid of it.
-The whole mental interaction with accountants, bookkeepers, opening bills, paying bills.
-The “Secret small actions of responsibility” you need to be taking with your money that ensure money growth but, do not slow you down.
Lesson Four – Family money- How to look at your family and the way you were raised around money in a different perspective…
-How to stop saying to yourself that you can never be wealthy because of your family and the way you were raised.
-How to stop bitching about your lack of money because of the way you were raised.
-How to let go of fears and blocks of worrying over completely separating yourself from your family and friends with massive wealth.
-How to shake off the fears of having too much “good” in your life when you have been so used to chaos from the way you were raised.
-How to KNOW when you are creating “money drama” in order to avoid taking action or working or fearing something in your life changing because of money.
-How to recognize when you’re in a money slump, why you’re creating the drama and how to pull yourself out of it.
-How to find the patterns of the way you manifest money and be able to shift so you are manifesting massive increase without any extra work.
Lesson Five- “Never enough…” When it creeps in even when you are acting like your wealthy you know you are…
This is for those who are making a lot of money or want to make a lot of money but, consistently run into the “It’s never enough…” voice.
-What is this voice really?
-How to really completely turn it off?
-How to know what is really going on underneath the surface and how it is NOT about not having enough…
-What steps you need to do in order to shift this completely.
Lesson Six– “Receiving money”
PAY ATTENTION TO THIS SECTION….
This is where we are going to cover the spiritual and emotional aspects of receiving money.
It’s one thing to do all this mindset work but to actually RECEIVE it is a completely different story
We walk through what it is like to receive money
We do specific exercises to FEEL and SEE and KNOW the money is coming in and the decision to receive the money…
We will also cover the blocks to “reeling it in”
You know this…the period where you feel like you’re just about to hit a breakthrough….
You say things like this but it never manifests the way you want it to….
-“It’s too good to be true.”
-“They said they were going to buy but then they vanished.”
-“I can’t seem to get more momentum after my first sale and/or I can’t seem to take action.”
-“I keep running into problem after problem.”
-“I had 10 discovery calls and didn’t close one.”
-“I don’t think I have any blocks but I have been working on making money for several months…”
-I am doing much better and I have made headway but I’m still not where I want to be.”
-“I’m so close to where I want to be…”
-“If I could just sign that damn client…or fill that group program or….”
How this is going to go…
2 group calls a week (1 hour) -includes one on one coaching with me in a small group setting
Private facebook group where you have access to ask me questions and
I give you customized mindset exercises catered to you.